Wednesday, January 26, 2011

no hugs

I agreed to go out for coffee with my high school friends tomorrow. I told them it would have to be downtown, because Mom's still in the hospital, and my days lately consisting of waking up, going to school, going to the gym (at school), going to the hospital (10 minutes from school), and going back home at the end, exhausted, to sleep. So we're going somewhere downtown.

They all said something along the lines of "If you need anything, if there's anything I can do, let me know." All I could think of was to ask that they not hug me when they see me. I hate it when I'm upset and pretending I'm not and people go and hug me. I know it's meant to be comforting, but it makes me cry, and I hate crying in front of people. And now it's agreed, there will be no hugging.

I told my boyfriend about going out for coffee, and about not wanting any hugs. "But if someone hugs you, and you start crying, that means you're not okay."

No, but sometimes pretending to be okay is all I've got.

No word yet on how long Mom will have to stay there. They've found something suspicious in her heart -  possibly a blood clot, possibly a part of the infection in her blood that may have spread to the heart, possibly a part of the kidney cancer that may have spread to the heart. I didn't think hearts could even get cancer. Apparently they can; it's just extremely rare.

1 comment:

  1. I totally understand not wanting hugs when you are upset. I'm the same way. It seems to bring the emotions to the surface, when I would much rather they stay buried. I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I read the post above, and it sounds like there was some good news. I hope she gets well soon. Take care:)